Priorities can really get confused in the course of a regular day.
Yes, you want to help with the PTA…or the neighbor’s situation…or the mountain of laundry.
Stephen Covey’s writing makes things clear for me. His book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, is one I recommend often.
I was going through some old files and found one of my favorite quotes.
You love coming through to help others…it’s part of what makes you shine.
So how you do you find the balance between the two?
This is self-care. This is understanding that your needs matter, too. It’s being able to serve the community while making yourself a priority.
Find Your Big, Burning YES
That’s not a question we ask often enough. Once you know that big, burning YES you can easily say no to the other things pleasantly, and with a smile.
How do you get to that?
No one will give it to you. Like all great things in your life, the work comes from within.
Yes, it’s time to look into your heart. That’s not a bad thing. The world teaches us that we should over-intellectualize our lives.
I completely disagree.
Great answers come from the heart.
An Exercise for You
On the notes section of your phone (or your journal if you’re old school like me,) (or your Bullet Journal because you’re new school like the cool kids,) put in
This should be simple.
Then, and this is important, place them in order.
Here’s what mine looks like:
1. My faith.
2. My family + close friends.
3. My health + self-care (taking the time to exercise + eat right.)
4. My business + making a contribution (serving.)
5. Other seasonal projects.
Numbers 1, 2, and 3 can rotate in top position. But only for a quick season. They are the core of my life and intertwine.
My list hasn’t always looked like that. I thought all those other projects were important, too. Sometimes my family would suffer because I was working on other tiny projects.
Getting to my top 5 has helped me focus in and give even more to each.
Now make your list. Put in the time and think about all those things that require your attention during the week.
I’d love to hear what you learned from this experience.
Why This Matters to You Today
When you are completely clear on what you need to accomplish, you have a chance to excel.
When you know your top 5, you’re the magnifying glass in the sunshine. You concentrate all the heat and sun’s energy and become the laser beam of heat and energy.
In that kind of intense, concentrated energy your priorities light up. Some would say they start to burn. You’ve created your big, burning yes.
If you don’t decide, you’ll be working on someone else’s big, burning yes.
The choice is yours. Set your top 5 now.
And then…let yourself SHINE.