Ep. 111 – You Deserve to Be with Other Smart, Ambitious Women

Smart, ambitious women come from all walks of life.  We are different sizes, skin tones, in different socioeconomic situations, and yet, we are all the same. March is National Women’s History Month, and this is an excellent time to get reacquainted.

We’ve had some real growth in our audience and I want to welcome new listeners to the show.  There are things that you, the long-time listener may not know about me.

You Deserve to Be With Other Smart, Ambitious Women
You Deserve to Be With Other Smart, Ambitious Women

So this is an invitation to you, new friends today, and in the future, we are taking a moment to let you in.  I’m Amy Robles.

My purpose is simple.  I believe When you enrich a woman’s life, you touch her entire circle of influence.

Smart, ambitious women are rarely thinking about themselves. What do they spend time thinking about?  Their family’s needs; aging parents; work responsibilities; the community; and more. Stress can fill our minds and consume our lives.  Keeping up feels like paddling water to keep from drowning.

These women, like us, have forgotten to think about and take care of themselves.

I’ve worked in marketing and sales for years.  So those are topics we address.  But it’s not a regular sales kind of show. This podcast, Think Enriched, is the place for smart, ambitious women. We come together to share, enjoy some self-care, laugh, and be kinder to ourselves. We learn new strategies for success, then go and do tremendous good in the world.  It is that simple.

Where has your experience led you?

  • As a child we lived hand-to-mouth.
  • Started off as a money blog
  • As my journey has grown, the show has changed.
  • This is my second version of a podcast.
  • The friends I’ve made through this podcast are exceptional (online marketers & the listeners)

Where is this going? What’s your vision for this podcast?

  • Women are starving. Physically. Mentally. Emotionally.
  • Beat the army of burnt out women.  Single moms, single women, married, gay, straight, or otherwise, there is too much to take care of in our role.
  • “the exclusive site for smart, ambitious women.”
  • CEOs, & power moms have more in common than they realize.
  • Managing multiple people, projects and items have the same principles.
  • Create the system to conquer our little should self-critic.
  • We work so hard to avoid failing others we can easily fail ourselves.
  • I imagine this group of power women that have met for weeks/months at a time online.  That when we come together for our retreat/experience…and finally meet in person at this power event. We learn business strategies, networking skills, keeping your vision fresh, support for women, trusting your intuition and emotions at the same damn time.
  • There’s not a business conference that I know of that meet the needs of women. It’s like feminist women trying to fit in the man’s world. Which is crap. Our world is different. We lead and nurture.
  • It’s not about bringing home the bacon like it was before. It’s more than that. Putting feelings and emotion in a process doesn’t make you weak, it add passion.  it increases the energy, giving you momentum and power, and staying true
  • The vision in my heart is BIG.

Are you a family person?

  • Family is the most important for me.
  • My siblings are in different parts of the world and like any family, we have struggles.
  • Military family which feels like, half-time 2 parents and half-time of single parenting.
  • Support, love, and strength really is where it’s at.
  • Home is our little bit of heaven.

Are you all about the hustle and the grind?

  • This is has been a big one for me… finding the balance.
  • I like to jump in the pool, or whatever it is, and then think, “Huh.  That was kind of a big decision.  It just felt right at the time.”
  • Being Mom & wife and still being able to give to this business can be stressful.
  • Turning off my mind to business ideas doesn’t seem to work.  I’m constantly searching for solutions and applying my life to my business and vice-versa.

Do you happily work 18 hours a day or get it all done in just six?

  • I’ve struggled with this a lot.
  • My husband said to me, “I can’t deal with talking about this all the time. I need you.  Not the business right now.”
  • I had to find a mentor/coach/mastermind/ colleague to discuss the business topics.
  • Turning it off is as important, if not more so, than keeping the business ideas going.

What do you do for fun?

  • My favorite, FAVORITE thing to do is to share stories.
  • I am down for a good game night.
  • I love to play with markers, hand lettering, and color.
  • Make-up is part of that. It’s so fun to try new looks.  I feel really good when I
  • My Mom had a beauty shop in our home.  Doing hair is a lot of fun.
  • Braiding hair is really fun, but I’m really slow.

Why Do We Need This Podcast?

Twice a week I share a show so it’s here when and where you need it.

Because let’s be real, girl, those moments you need a podcast show up.

Moments like when you are:

  • Focusing on work projects all day long.  Your brain feels like mush afterward.
  • Driving and pretending to keep calm even though your kids are screaming non-stop.
  • Feeling low after a day when it all went bad. So bad.
  • Needing a laugh to help you have a break.
  • Trying to remember the last time you had a girls’ night and need some social time.  You’re not Mom, the boss, or the spouse. You are simply YOU.
  • Wanting to have a conversation that is real and makes you feel good. Just because.
  • Wishing a good friend would pop right in and cheer you on!

We all have felt like this at some point. For a long time, I thought I was extra needy.

Powerful Women Must Take Care of Themselves

I’m not. You are not. We are smart, ambitious and kind. Those specific qualities make us powerful.

Powerful does not mean you’re a superhero. None of us are.

The REASON I make this podcast is this: Because You DESERVE to love yourself right now. You NEED to give yourself YOUR BEST. Even though you don’t think you have time. Especially when you don’t think you are worthy of it. Self-care is not selfish.

You fill up your own cup so you have more to give. Because what the world needs is you and your best.

That’s why I put so much work to craft and share different podcast episodes each week. I’m there for you. I understand how lonely it can to be to support all those around you and still feel so empty. It’s something no one wants to talk about and yet we can do something about it right now.

It takes time to prepare the show each week.  5 minute Monday Maxims, that quick shot of your mental Vitamin B can take up to 1 hour of time to produce.

Longer episodes take 8-10 hours for production.

I want you to feel confident. Cared for. Secure. Successful. And oh, so sexy! When you feel good on the inside it radiates in all you do.

Then Together We Can Change the World

Can you imagine if all smart, ambitious women in the world felt this way? We would change the world.

We can change the world as we work together.

Now, you have a decision to make. You could just move on and forget this page. Nothing will happen. Things will probably remain exactly the same as they have been in your life. Nothing happens unless you decide to make it happen.

Or you can do something different. You can contribute and become part of the movement. Be the one to help move this force of powerful women forward. As part of the team, you will be first to know when we get together, in real life.  Imagine the chance to hug one another, laugh, learn and work together to do even more good in the world.

By contributing to the show, you’ll be sharing part of the quality and consistency others count on. You are becoming part of the team.  Your insight will help shape the show for others who need it.

When you contribute, you’ll be doing something special. You’ll help us keep the podcast free.  You’ll help keep it out there in the world for another person who is struggling and really needs it. You are paying it forward, literally, so others can join us.

Click on the link and let me know how much this means to you. Your support at any level means a lot to me and to all the listeners who cannot give $1 a month.

You are a star. Shine on.

Ep. 102 – What Makes You Come Alive.

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Monday Maxim with Amy 2018:

It’s your mental Vitamin B. Each Monday I share a little motivation & insight to start the week. You’ve got a lot of people depending on you. There is big work for you to do. So here’s a maxim for you, the smart, ambitious woman, to help you SHINE.

“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”  Howard Thurman

How To Come Alive

This episode shares specific steps to follow your curiosity and become your best self.  You’ll learn how you can take a beginner idea and flourish it into something that works for you and your lifestyle.

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Ep. 101 – Use Your Sway

We all admire women with sway.  They have presence but aren’t overbearing.

The problem isn’t that you don’t have it.  Like most smart, ambitious women, you just don’t know how to use it.

If you have ever experienced mansplaining, (and seriously, who hasn’t?) this is the episode for you.

Get out your papers and pens (hopefully, you’re using more than one color on  this notes collection. Lots of good stuff to take in.)  This is one episode you should be taking notes!

Today’s guest is the host of the Leader to Leader Podcast and he knows his stuff!

Mark Slemons is a speaker, podcaster, and coach. He helps leaders leverage practices and perspectives to make their people and their organization thrive. It’s challenging to lead well, especially young leaders who are just starting their journey. They don’t have to do it alone though. With more than 30 years as a husband, father, leader, volunteer, and employee working for a multi-billion dollar international company, his unique perspective combined with practical and actionable tips will help individuals and organizations thrive. Whether humorous, serious, or sad, he uses the past to create a better future.

Connect with Mark Slemons.Mark Slemons, Leader to Leader Podcast

Show highlights that apply right now are:

  • Mark decided to be consistent, (publish an episode every Monday) before he started his podcast.
  • Perfection addiction in his life: He struggles with not having something be perfect before he lets it go.
  • Now he has arrived at the point where he says, “This is a really good effort, and I’m okay with that.”  Couldn’t we all use more of that in our life?  
  • What your best is at one time is not what you do now.
  • Amy joins Mark on his show, Episode 8.
  • The ideas mature- just like you.
  • Why You Must Talk About Yourself, Episode 40-41.
  • Mark describes the feeling you get when you’re on to something…”You know that if you can get ahold of this it will make a difference in your own life and hope that it can do the same for someone else.”
  • You have to talk about yourself.
  • That’s not pride.  You can tell people about the good things in your life.
  • We undermine and underestimate the contribution we add, even in our own home.

Why Sway is Important in Your Life

“This notion that your great work speaks for itself while you are humble and unassuming…it’s not a reality.”

  • When you don’t talk about yourself enough, it comes down to a self-worth issue.
  • Talk about yourself too much?  You’re bragging.
  • Bragging is what has happened in the past.
  • The difference between swagger and cockiness defined.
  • It’s ultimately about sway. Sway is your influence.
  • There’s an art to talking about yourself.
  • It’s okay to talk about yourself that gives you credit for your capabilities, talents and results.

Six Steps to Help Smart, Ambitious Women Use Their Sway

  • Step 1. Track your performance.
    • Everyone has a body of work.
    • You need to demonstrate your contribution in the larger wheel. Build the body of evidence.
    • Use examples that show results in your space.
  • Keep “The Glory File*,” the file that keeps track of those compliments, kudos, reports of success just for you.  You can refer to them when you need to report in.
  • Step 2. Talk about your results.
    • You must communicate your efforts regularly.
    • Position yourself to show others, the business
    • Don’t be silent about your accomplishments.
    • Arrogance and silence both don’t help. Find the middle ground for you.
    • “If you’re too modest, you’re not helping yourself.”
    • If you don’t say it, there’s nobody else that’s going to do it for you. 
  • Step 3.  Share credit when credit needs to be shared.
    • Thank for the credit and mention how your team will appreciate it.
    • Mention the team amidst the effort.
    • Name them specifically, if possible.
  • Step 4.  Take credit for your ideas.
    • It’s up to you to get the respect & authority that you deserve.
    • You can’t allow others to take your credit and not put up resistance.
    • Don’t be childish.  Be strategic.
    • “I’m glad you like my idea. I’d love to hear how you would add to that.”
    • Your choice of words is really important.
    • Be willing to confront, not combat someone on the issue.
  • “I encourage your listeners to step up.  You have the ability to lead well.”
  • Step 5. Learn how to receive a compliment. 
    • Always say thank you.
    • You can acknowledge mistakes, but don’t mention your mistakes so they overpower the compliment given.
    • Give yourself the space to say thank you.
  • Step 6. Deal with criticism.
    • There are people everywhere who speak before thinking. Words can hurt.
    • Some of the feedback you get will be harsh.  If you are more sensitive to that, find a way to deal with those comments that work for you.
    • Take the valuable pieces of the feedback and discard the rest.
    • Others don’t feel the pain.  Even the person who said that remark will never feel the pain of a cutting comment. You decide if that thought persists in your mind or if you get rid of it.  You have the power.

 

  • “Don’t go to bed with that guy tonight. He’s living in your head, rent-free, and you need to evict him…”  These are the words you need to remind yourself when you find yourself fixated on a negative, or hurtful comment.

Find Mark Slemons on Twitter, or email him at mark@markslemons.com.

*  As recommended by Pamela Jett.

Ep. 100 – Be Calm About Ambitions & Confident of Achieving Them.

Monday Maxim with Amy:

This your mental Vitamin B. Each Monday I share a little motivation & insight to start the week. You’ve got a lot of people depending on you. There is big work for you to do. So here’s a maxim for you, the smart, ambitious woman, to help you SHINE.

“If you are calm about your ambitions, you become confident of achieving what you set out to do.” – Shiv Nadar 

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Why You Should Learn from Shiv Nadar

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This quote is by Shiv Nadar and I had to do a little research on who this guy is. He started the tech company making calculators and little computers microprocessors in India and now he is a billionaire industrialist and a philanthropist. And this point is so important.

I’ve heard the word ambitious be used almost derogatorily against women who are going after their dreams.  I love this perspective about just be calm about your ambitions and you become confident and that’s what we’re working on.

What About You

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Each one of us has this thing that we’re working to progress and get better. One example of that is today this very episode is episode 100 of this podcast. I am so happy to get here. I am so happy for the support and so grateful for friends cheering me on and figuring out like this didn’t quite work. And this was the right thing, pulling all those pieces together, it’s in the actual doing of the work the project the thing, the writing, whatever you’re working on while you’re doing that you’re learning the skills, you’re becoming better.

That’s where the confidence comes in. You know, in the beginning, I wouldn’t tell anybody that I had a podcast I wouldn’t even hardly talk about it.  I just kind of went to talk on it the microphone was a little bit shy and I’m happy to be here and I don’t feel like that anymore.

Steps to Success

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I feel really happy and I’m so lit up when I do this. I just want to share and I’ve got some insights and some perspectives that can really help and I believe in what I’m doing.

But that confidence only came through doing it over and over. Whatever you’re working on, whatever your goal is, what it is where you see, where you are right now and way, way, way down the road you see where you want to be. And you know and you can visualize this person that you want to become and you are meant to become.

And it is not something not just a dream or something you want to do. It’s something you can not not do. You have to do it. It is who you are. This is something that will happen you just know it has to happen and because of that you work through this process and you keep trying and you make mistakes and oh my goodness I made so many mistakes and you podcast and you do this episode and it doesn’t work out and you have to rerecord and you have to you’re up late night to all of these things.

That’s what is happening. You’re building this confidence you’re becoming better and people start noticing this is the most incredible process when you’re in it and you people on the outside see that and they want to get into that and they want to be part of it because they love your confidence. They love the knowledge that you have and they want to learn more.

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Be Calm & Confident

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So be calm about your ambitions become confident in what you can do.

You and I both know when you enrich a woman’s life you change the life of everyone around her.

That’s what this is all about. Have a great week. Talk to you soon.