Ep. 111 – You Deserve to Be with Other Smart, Ambitious Women

Smart, ambitious women come from all walks of life.  We are different sizes, skin tones, in different socioeconomic situations, and yet, we are all the same. March is National Women’s History Month, and this is an excellent time to get reacquainted.

We’ve had some real growth in our audience and I want to welcome new listeners to the show.  There are things that you, the long-time listener may not know about me.

You Deserve to Be With Other Smart, Ambitious Women
You Deserve to Be With Other Smart, Ambitious Women

So this is an invitation to you, new friends today, and in the future, we are taking a moment to let you in.  I’m Amy Robles.

My purpose is simple.  I believe When you enrich a woman’s life, you touch her entire circle of influence.

Smart, ambitious women are rarely thinking about themselves. What do they spend time thinking about?  Their family’s needs; aging parents; work responsibilities; the community; and more. Stress can fill our minds and consume our lives.  Keeping up feels like paddling water to keep from drowning.

These women, like us, have forgotten to think about and take care of themselves.

I’ve worked in marketing and sales for years.  So those are topics we address.  But it’s not a regular sales kind of show. This podcast, Think Enriched, is the place for smart, ambitious women. We come together to share, enjoy some self-care, laugh, and be kinder to ourselves. We learn new strategies for success, then go and do tremendous good in the world.  It is that simple.

Where has your experience led you?

  • As a child we lived hand-to-mouth.
  • Started off as a money blog
  • As my journey has grown, the show has changed.
  • This is my second version of a podcast.
  • The friends I’ve made through this podcast are exceptional (online marketers & the listeners)

Where is this going? What’s your vision for this podcast?

  • Women are starving. Physically. Mentally. Emotionally.
  • Beat the army of burnt out women.  Single moms, single women, married, gay, straight, or otherwise, there is too much to take care of in our role.
  • “the exclusive site for smart, ambitious women.”
  • CEOs, & power moms have more in common than they realize.
  • Managing multiple people, projects and items have the same principles.
  • Create the system to conquer our little should self-critic.
  • We work so hard to avoid failing others we can easily fail ourselves.
  • I imagine this group of power women that have met for weeks/months at a time online.  That when we come together for our retreat/experience…and finally meet in person at this power event. We learn business strategies, networking skills, keeping your vision fresh, support for women, trusting your intuition and emotions at the same damn time.
  • There’s not a business conference that I know of that meet the needs of women. It’s like feminist women trying to fit in the man’s world. Which is crap. Our world is different. We lead and nurture.
  • It’s not about bringing home the bacon like it was before. It’s more than that. Putting feelings and emotion in a process doesn’t make you weak, it add passion.  it increases the energy, giving you momentum and power, and staying true
  • The vision in my heart is BIG.

Are you a family person?

  • Family is the most important for me.
  • My siblings are in different parts of the world and like any family, we have struggles.
  • Military family which feels like, half-time 2 parents and half-time of single parenting.
  • Support, love, and strength really is where it’s at.
  • Home is our little bit of heaven.

Are you all about the hustle and the grind?

  • This is has been a big one for me… finding the balance.
  • I like to jump in the pool, or whatever it is, and then think, “Huh.  That was kind of a big decision.  It just felt right at the time.”
  • Being Mom & wife and still being able to give to this business can be stressful.
  • Turning off my mind to business ideas doesn’t seem to work.  I’m constantly searching for solutions and applying my life to my business and vice-versa.

Do you happily work 18 hours a day or get it all done in just six?

  • I’ve struggled with this a lot.
  • My husband said to me, “I can’t deal with talking about this all the time. I need you.  Not the business right now.”
  • I had to find a mentor/coach/mastermind/ colleague to discuss the business topics.
  • Turning it off is as important, if not more so, than keeping the business ideas going.

What do you do for fun?

  • My favorite, FAVORITE thing to do is to share stories.
  • I am down for a good game night.
  • I love to play with markers, hand lettering, and color.
  • Make-up is part of that. It’s so fun to try new looks.  I feel really good when I
  • My Mom had a beauty shop in our home.  Doing hair is a lot of fun.
  • Braiding hair is really fun, but I’m really slow.

Why Do We Need This Podcast?

Twice a week I share a show so it’s here when and where you need it.

Because let’s be real, girl, those moments you need a podcast show up.

Moments like when you are:

  • Focusing on work projects all day long.  Your brain feels like mush afterward.
  • Driving and pretending to keep calm even though your kids are screaming non-stop.
  • Feeling low after a day when it all went bad. So bad.
  • Needing a laugh to help you have a break.
  • Trying to remember the last time you had a girls’ night and need some social time.  You’re not Mom, the boss, or the spouse. You are simply YOU.
  • Wanting to have a conversation that is real and makes you feel good. Just because.
  • Wishing a good friend would pop right in and cheer you on!

We all have felt like this at some point. For a long time, I thought I was extra needy.

Powerful Women Must Take Care of Themselves

I’m not. You are not. We are smart, ambitious and kind. Those specific qualities make us powerful.

Powerful does not mean you’re a superhero. None of us are.

The REASON I make this podcast is this: Because You DESERVE to love yourself right now. You NEED to give yourself YOUR BEST. Even though you don’t think you have time. Especially when you don’t think you are worthy of it. Self-care is not selfish.

You fill up your own cup so you have more to give. Because what the world needs is you and your best.

That’s why I put so much work to craft and share different podcast episodes each week. I’m there for you. I understand how lonely it can to be to support all those around you and still feel so empty. It’s something no one wants to talk about and yet we can do something about it right now.

It takes time to prepare the show each week.  5 minute Monday Maxims, that quick shot of your mental Vitamin B can take up to 1 hour of time to produce.

Longer episodes take 8-10 hours for production.

I want you to feel confident. Cared for. Secure. Successful. And oh, so sexy! When you feel good on the inside it radiates in all you do.

Then Together We Can Change the World

Can you imagine if all smart, ambitious women in the world felt this way? We would change the world.

We can change the world as we work together.

Now, you have a decision to make. You could just move on and forget this page. Nothing will happen. Things will probably remain exactly the same as they have been in your life. Nothing happens unless you decide to make it happen.

Or you can do something different. You can contribute and become part of the movement. Be the one to help move this force of powerful women forward. As part of the team, you will be first to know when we get together, in real life.  Imagine the chance to hug one another, laugh, learn and work together to do even more good in the world.

By contributing to the show, you’ll be sharing part of the quality and consistency others count on. You are becoming part of the team.  Your insight will help shape the show for others who need it.

When you contribute, you’ll be doing something special. You’ll help us keep the podcast free.  You’ll help keep it out there in the world for another person who is struggling and really needs it. You are paying it forward, literally, so others can join us.

Click on the link and let me know how much this means to you. Your support at any level means a lot to me and to all the listeners who cannot give $1 a month.

You are a star. Shine on.

Almost Debt Free: One Year on our Journey

We woke up a year ago, February 21, 2014.

The power of one year.  How to start on your debt-free journey.
The power of one year. How to start on your debt-free journey.
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Our entire lives changed. I won’t forget that day.

Sure, this is our story, but there are similarities to each person looking to make a powerful change to their financial situation.  There’s 3 basic steps necessary.

First, really see the problem.

We knew we were in debt. No one had to remind us of that.  We knew we had nothing saved for the future.  Our resolution was to pay off a solid $5,000 of our over $20,000 in credit card debt that year.  And then we would try… to make some headway on our student loans.  It was depressing.  We were still in love, but money was starting to become a strain on our marriage.  A bigger strain.  We knew something had to change.

After a dismal attempt to make some extra payments in January to credit cards, we signed up for Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace class.  Sure, we had friends who had done “the envelopes.”  It all sounded so primitive.  Like the cavemen did it.  Nobody in this age uses envelopes to pay for necessities of life.  But at this point we were ready to try something, anything that would help us get out of this hot mess.

I’m a much faster decision maker than my husband.  He has to research it out, find out more and make sure that we are being wise.  He had found his podcast and was listening to and from work.  One day, in the middle of the month, as we were walking into the swimming pool my husband casually mentioned, “Hey, I’ve heard that Dave Ramsey guy and what he’s saying makes sense.  I’ve looked into it and there’s a class in our area.  We should probably do it.”

That’s all I needed.  Before our daughter was in the pool, I’d opened my phone and signed us up for the class.  It was time.

Face it.  Head on.  Even though it’s scary.

The day of class, we had a babysitter lined up, but our daughter had one of those colds that she just had a continual runny, drippy, messy nose.  We thought that if we left her with the sitter, she’d get our sitter sick.  I told my husband that he could go and I’ll watch our daughter.  He said, “No, hon.  I’ve been listening to him for a few weeks now.  You need to go and hear this.”

Well, crap.

Here I was, thinking about every conversation I had my father about money, which turned into  “The same thing I fight with my oldest daughter every time: Money and Feelings.”  (Which, is a direct quote from him.) Talking about money before hurt. It was wrong to talk about.  Ever.  I had seen him blow through money foolishly, but we were never to talk, or ask about money.  For anything.  It was his control.

So now, I’m a grown up,  driving to a class to talk about money.  With strangers.

What was I doing?  I was scared.

As I was driving through the gorgeous Pacific Northwest to the church’s location, the towering pines made the night sky black.  I felt like I was going to my personal financial judgment.  I had images of Mr. Ramsey yelling at me for being foolish with money.  My stomach was in knots.  The church location was far out  from the city area, and it was getting darker and darker.  GPS instructions told me to turn left and up the little hill.  The lit cross looked like a neon sign.  Instantly I thought, “This is where people go to die.”  It felt like a horror movie intro.

I was the first one there.  The hosts were setting up a couple of things and the “techno-Jesus” music playing kept my heart pounding.

After a quick introduction, the video lesson started.  Dave Ramsey was talking to me.  For the first time in my life, I felt like it was finally possible.   That I wasn’t a fool.  I’d been foolish.  What a difference that makes.

Not only did I feel accepted.  I felt empowered.  He talked about, “you can change your family tree,” so generations won’t have to suffer and learn the hard way like you are.

I was moved.

Inspired.

Ever changed.

In today’s vernacular, they’d say, “Mama was LIT UP.”

The drive home all I could think about was my family, my husband’s family and the examples of “money done wrong.”  I knew we were going to change.  I knew we were going to make it happen.  I went home and talked my husband’s ear off about how things are going to be better and we are going to be able to do this!

He was stunned at the fire that started within me.

That week I read his book, “The Total Money  Makeover” and cried through a lot of it.  I had been so angry at myself for not being in a better financial position, yet had no idea where to start.  This was the way to make it happen.

Get to work.

Then we got to work. We prayed about it.  We worked for it.  We gave up some things.  But that was all just stuff.  We knew we had to make this happen.

Then Father in Heaven, God, or the Universe took over.  (I don’t care what you call the Higher Power, I just know that there is one.)

My husband was sent bonds that he had purchased from his first year in the military.  They were almost fully matured.  We took the extra money and paid off a bill.  Fast.

The state of California called,some person in the Dept. of Vehicles, found out that we had overpaid and were asking where they should send our check of $1500.  Whaaaat?  How is that possible?

We took some money out of our mutual funds and made another big payment to our debt.

We learned that we were spending $800 on groceries for our family of three.  Wait.  Did she just say $800?  Yup.  Sadly, it’s true.  We made some changes and are spending $400-500 a month now, depending on the Costco household items we may need to stock up on each month.  You know what’s the best part of that?  We are eating so much healthier, wholesome food from our pantry.  The menu is delicious and I am enjoying preparing a meal, rather succumbing to Pinterest Pressure.

Even though we really wanted to join our friends on weekend mini-vacations, and expensive day trips around the area, we set our boundaries and said no.  It was hard.  They would start telling us plans of where they were staying and mention the discount hotels down the street to join them, but we just smiled and said no.  It was hard.  All those little trips have made a huge change for us.  And our friends have been taking notice.

I woke up one day and realized that I had one student loan of $1500.  I was paying $50 a month on it, most to the interest.  I don’t even want to think about how long I would have been paying that off.

In the one year from that first day of class, we have paid off over $25,000 of debt.  We just have 3 student loans left.  And we are coming after them!

If you are in a position where you don’t know how you are going to get there- I completely understand.  If you’d like to talk it through and start finding solutions, let’s talk.