Ep. 121 – Self-Respect in Your Life

Smart, ambitious women understand the importance of self-respect. This affects every aspect of your life. How do you build self-respect? When do you know you have it? That’s what we discuss on this Monday Maxim.

Self- Respect in Your Life
Self- Respect in Your Life

Remember Lean on Me, the movie of the New Jersey high school principal, Joe Clark?  He’s sharing some insight today on your Monday Maxim.

This your mental Vitamin B. Each Monday I share a little motivation & insight to start the week. You’ve got a lot of people depending on you. There is big work for you to do. So here’s a maxim for you, the smart, ambitious woman, to help you SHINE.

Self-respect permeates every aspect of your life.  – Joe Clark

I lived in New Jersey for nearly a couple years.  That’s where I learned to speak Spanish. That area, Paterson, New Jersey, is where I was assigned as a missionary for my church.

Our local congregation’s leader lived right around the corner from Eastside High School in Paterson.  First, Crazy Joe had to kick out the drugs and problems and focus on those who were coming to school to learn.

This is a perfect lesson for each of us today.

Kick out the stuff that doesn’t belong.  Focus on the good.

The respect you give yourself is the same respect that others give you.

How do you start to give yourself respect?  You earn it.

Self-Respect Starts With Being Dependable

If you say you are going to get up when the alarm rings, do it.  Don’t hit snooze.  Get your feet on the floor and walk. It feels great once that warm shower hits your body.

When you don’t get up in the morning, you are telling yourself, with your actions, that you cannot be depended upon.  And you will respond as you think.  It’s not about just getting up in the morning, it’s about telling yourself you will do exactly what you planned to do.

You are selling yourself to you. Before anyone else knows about it.

Confidence Comes from Committing to Yourself

When you make a commitment to your family, friends, or work, you know that job will be completed.  That’s what makes you a smart, ambitious woman.

What about you?  If you tell yourself you are going to exercise at 7:30 pm, but someone needs your help… you push it aside, don’t you?  Of course, you have.  No more.  You can tell your family & friends, “Look, I will happily help you, but first, I’m going to do this…” then walk out the door, they may be stunned.  But they know you are serious.  The people in your life aren’t taking you seriously because you don’t take yourself seriously.

Kick Out the Junk

It’s spring here in the Pacific Northwest.  I’m on a spring cleaning high!  I love getting rid of all the junk that has accumulated over the winter…(Where did all of that stuff come from, anyway???)  What is left is space to move and breathe.  A better environment for all of us here.

It’s the same with your habits.  You may have collected a few that are holding you back.  You know it’s time.  Replace those habits with healthier ones and see how those tiny steps add up to big changes in your life.

When you know that you can depend on yourself, that you are making (and keeping) consistent commitments to yourself, and you eliminate that junk in your life… you will have gained a self-confidence like never before.  A quiet, internal, powerful self-respect which builds even more tremendous self-confidence.

Tell me in the comments below: How do you work on your self-respect?