Ep. 99 – Be a Multi-Dimensional Woman

Have you felt like you’re taking care of everyone around you and you’re nearly burnt out?

Or, have you felt like you haven’t done anything new in weeks, maybe even months?

You can excel as a multi-dimensional woman.

This episode is just for you.

The lifelong friend of mine joins us today.  This conversation with Mandy Green was pure delight.  She loves being a mother & wife, yet had a strong desire to do something more.  You won’t believe what that led her to do.

Mandy Green
Find out more at: https://www.mandybrookegreen.com/connect

Today’s highlights include:

  • How her parents raised the strong, creative personalities of Mandy and her siblings.
  • The influence of Mandy, and our friend, Erika, to live fully in the moment.
  • You’re empowering everyone else around you when you are full of light.
  • Every smart, ambitious woman needs a group of friends like ours.
  • Learning Hebrew was difficult for her to grasp.  Mandy’s solution? Attend Hebrew U in Israel.
  • The power of travel in her life.
  • Mandy explains the process of how she gained the support & favor of her family before she left.
  • Her husband, Brent, in Mandy’s words is “The shore to my raging sea.”
  • When you feel that call and you feel that this is something you should do, it takes courage to step out.
  • The pivotal moment in prayer to decide to stay or go back home.
  • Throughout her travel, this quote kept her aligned, “Don’t be afraid of your fears.  They’re not there to scare you. They’re there to let you know that something is worth it.” – C. Joybell C.
  • “Scared is what you’re feeling.  Brave is what you’re doing.”  “It takes courage to grow up and become who you are meant to become.”  – E.E. Cummings

Uncover the three steps to enriching your life.

  • There are three steps to enriching your life
    • You notice it within, a crisis of character. Loss of individuality, your Spirit is empty, and personality suffers.  Something has to change.
    • This moves you to the phase of curiosity.  You are looking.  So many people are in this phase. They begin studying and learning so much more about a creative outlet.
    • After you’ve been learning for a while, people come to you and ask to learn.  They do this for 2 reasons.  First, you have knowledge. You have become an expert, you just didn’t notice. And second, you are lit up.
  • Her experience in Jerusalem has helped her gain perspective and conquer fear. After living in this situation, she knows her life has a purpose.
  • Something bigger guides your life. There’s power in consciously choosing to do what you do.
  • See humanity to support one another.
  • The term helpmeet translated in Hebrew means, “The exact, but the mirror image.”
  • The hymn of the pearl.  The pearl is yours, and yours only. The explosive, exponential force that comes from 2 people who know their purpose working together.
  • Marianne Williamson’s quote, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves,’Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. It takes to courage to endure the sharp pains of self-discovery, rather than choose to take the dull pain of unconsciousness that would last the rest of our lives.”
  • Click on the link to learn more from Mandy online. Giovanni Giocando, Christmas Eve, 1513: “Life is so generous a giver, but we judging its gifts by their covering, cast them away as ugly or heavy or hard. Remove the covering and you will find beneath it a living splendor woven of love by wisdom with power. Welcome it. Grasp it. And you will touch the angel’s hand that brings it to you. Everything we call a trial, a sorrow, or a duty, believe me that angel’s hand is there. The gift is there. And the wonder of an overshadowing presence are joys too.  Be not content with them as joys. As joys, they to conceal diviner gifts. Life is so full of meaning and purpose. So full of beauty beneath its covering that earth but cloaks your heaven. Courage then to claim it. That is all. But courage you have and the knowledge that we are pilgrims together, wending  through unknown country, home.” Just stay open to the open to new opportunity.
  • From Hamlet, “There are more things in heaven and earth than are dreamt of in mere philosophy, Horatio.”

Find more about Mandy Green.

Thanks for listening!

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Ep. 94 – “The More You Dream, the More You Achieve.”

Monday Maxim with Amy, 2018

It’s your mental Vitamin B for the week. Each Monday I share a little motivation & insight to start the week. You’ve got a lot of people depending on you. There is big work to do. So here’s a maxim for you, the smart, ambitious woman, to help you SHINE.

Our first Monday Maxim with Amy

We start out the year with one from Michael Phelps."The more you dream, the more you achieve." Michael Phelps

 “The more you dream, the more you achieve.”

Don’t hide those dreams in the back of the closet somewhere.  Step into it.  And watch this year, become your best one yet.

As smart, ambitious women, we are constantly focusing on the details, making sure everything gets done and we are ready for the next thing.  We are so in the stuff of life we aren’t dreaming.

We’ve forgotten to dream.

We are in the machine, not running the machine.

Dream more.

A quick challenge for the week:

1. Take 15 minutes this week and dream.  Think bigger.  Imagine.  Dive in and feel those feelings of what you want to achieve in this year.

2. Then, and this is so important, write that down.

3. Then get to work.

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Breakthrough Today and You Can Die Empty

Living your enriched life is something only you can create.  You have the power within.  You know what is in your heart, what you desire to leave to the world. I’ve been thinking about this concept for a long time.  Only when listening to a podcast did I realize that this is the purpose of this blog.

See, each of us has a huge amount of potential to create and give something to the world.  You have that “je ne sai quoi” to leave a legacy.  It may be quilting, acting, creating fantastic code to innovate the web, or working with teenagers,  it doesn’t really matter what it is. What matter is  when you think about it, talk about it, write about it, you are on fire! It is one of your passions.  I don’t believe that you have just one passion. You and I have topics that light us up, and which topic we choose to spend time on becomes a passion.   That passion inspires others with what you, and only YOU, can give to the world.  And you know exactly what I’m talking about, don’t you?  You know what that passion is.

So I’m a nerd.  There I said it.  Whew.  Glad we got that out of the way.  I buy books like some women buy shoes.  Every once in a great while, I find a book I have to have.  I have to get to the core of the issue and not just read, but embrace it, absorb it, take in the very stuff that it is and make it a part of my mind.  My very center.  This is not a philosophy to consider, a business model to pattern, or another study full of data points and logarithms for further evaluation.  No, this concept rings true.  This is a piece of literature that invokes a pattern of thought I have been pondering, questioning, and asking about for quite sometime and I hunger to hear and study more.

Die Empty: Unleash Your Best Work Every Day, by Todd Henry
Die Empty: Unleash Your Best Work Every Day, by Todd Henry

I’ve found that the podcast has been the most effective method for me to take in new information as I’m folding laundry, washing a dish or two, or cleaning.  Chores have become immensely enjoyable.  Whodathunk?  It’s not just a chore now, it’s a workshop of thought while my hands are busy on the mundane.  Oh, the power of the podcast.  Chris Ducker, powerful entrepreneur, interviewed Todd Henry and asked so many questions about his book, Die Empty: Unleash Your Best Work Every Day.  And I was in awe.  This spoke straight to me. There were so many times I was nodding and vocally agreeing with comments.

In essence, his message is tend the soil you have been given, and CREATE a harvest for the future.  Plant the seeds for those you leave behind. Leave a legacy. But, how do you create a legacy today?

How is your legacy created even with the mundane acts of daily life?

"Be fiercely curious." Todd Henry
“Be fiercely curious.” Todd Henry in his book “Die Empty: Unleash Your Best Work Every Day”

First, find what is holding you back.

Henry is quoted, saying: “Be Fiercely Curious.”  Ask a lot of questions.  Challenge the assumptions you have had in life.  Are you like me and have been thinking, “Well, I’ve always been a big girl. I come from a big family. I don’t think I’ll ever be fit.”  What is that?  How has that assumption molded my daily behavior?  Why didn’t I see that before? What other assumptions on my life are holding me back?

What assumptions of your life are holding you back?  Do you have to do that task every day or are you doing it because you’ve always done it that way?  Is there another way to create an environment that you love?  Do you think that you’re stuck financially and will never be out of debt?  Can you hear the self-fulfilling prophecies created by your own voice?  Could you earn money in a very different way AND help those around you?  Can you create something better today? It takes a completely different mindset to start thinking this way- but that’s where the magic happens.  That’s where life becomes exciting!  Todd Henry explains it like this:

We don’t like uncertainty… We prefer the certainty of immediate results, rather that the potential that will expend a lot of effort and on the other side of the effort there will be nothing.  But that is where breakthrough comes from.  The process itself is worth it.  The process of making something, the process of risking, of trying things in and of itself is worth it if we want to contribute and build a brilliant body of work over time.

-Todd Henry, Die Empty: Unleash Your Best Work Every Day

This is EXACTLY what WomanEnriched is all about: breaking through.  I was finding myself doing the chores, getting the jobs done, and checking things off the never ending list of  to-do items.  This is good; however, I needed to breakthrough.  I knew that there was MORE inside me.  There was much more that I wanted to create.  More I wanted to give to the world.  But it took RISK.

I want to share my thoughts, my friendship, my heart with the world in a very personal way. I want to cheer people on, remind them of their value and help them achieve even more than they had believed they could.  Why?  Because I believe there are others who need these thoughts. I trust that there are good people in the world who want to read this content and share their insights with me.  I consider the people who read these posts as not just people, but friends. Real friends.  Even if I never meet them in person. I appreciate them immensely, for they are doing a considerable amount of good in the world. Don’t they deserve a shot of Vitamin B (Or Vitamin Blog as I like to call it) and some homemade sunshine from one that cares? Can someone inspire them to do a little more?  Can I?  I want to.  Only time will tell.  But that’s what I want to be.

 Second, Take small risks every day.

Want to write a book?  Tell one friend today and once you hear that cheering you on, will help you have confidence to tell two more.  Want to be a screenwriter even though you are working 10 hour days?  You’ve got 30 minutes of peace before you go to bed.  You do.  You could write down some key thoughts you have on a sticky note, then when you sit down to work you just go to work.  Want to be a potter?  Find a class in the community.  You can do this.  You really should do this, too.

Because at the end of the day, will you wonder about your choices?  Did you live a life having a breakthrough or did you play it safe? Did you spend time giving value to others?  Were your relationships the warm, rich ones that ooze happiness in your life? Did you give it your best? Only you can answer these questions,  don’t check out of life with regret.  Todd Henry sums it up this way:

Based on conversations I’ve had with people, based on research done by others, the things you will regret are the times in your life when you chose to do the safe thing instead of doing the thing that your intuition told you was right.

Listen, at the end of your life, when you lay your head down for the last time, if you’re not purposeful about  your life you will have a lot of regrets. But if you are purposeful about structuring your life in such a way that your spending those four finite resources: focus, assets, time, energy in a meaningful and purposeful way you will lay your head down for the last time pointing to a body of work and saying, “Yes!  That represents me!” and you will die empty of regret, but you will die full of satisfaction for a life well lived.  And I think that’s all any of us can ask for.” 

Todd Henry

Third, Consider this TED Talk by Candy Chang.

 

Powerful stuff, huh?  I can’t stop thinking about what that enormous chalkboard for the whole world would look like with everyone writing down that thing they want to do before they die.  Every one has a passion.  Now, let’s break through.  Complete strangers posted their life’s goal on a chalkboard to share with the world. Write yours down on a sticky note, may be you post it on the bathroom mirror so while you are preparing for day, you are keeping your mind focused.  Perhaps it’s at your cubicle, so you remember what you are doing there.  Maybe it’s on the fridge. And, show it to me.  Take a picture and put it on Instagram using #breakthroughtoday .

I can’t wait to see what you come up with.  Tell me, how do you work on your passion and keep up with the daily minutia?