Ep. 99 – Be a Multi-Dimensional Woman

Have you felt like you’re taking care of everyone around you and you’re nearly burnt out?

Or, have you felt like you haven’t done anything new in weeks, maybe even months?

You can excel as a multi-dimensional woman.

This episode is just for you.

The lifelong friend of mine joins us today.  This conversation with Mandy Green was pure delight.  She loves being a mother & wife, yet had a strong desire to do something more.  You won’t believe what that led her to do.

Mandy Green
Find out more at: https://www.mandybrookegreen.com/connect

Today’s highlights include:

  • How her parents raised the strong, creative personalities of Mandy and her siblings.
  • The influence of Mandy, and our friend, Erika, to live fully in the moment.
  • You’re empowering everyone else around you when you are full of light.
  • Every smart, ambitious woman needs a group of friends like ours.
  • Learning Hebrew was difficult for her to grasp.  Mandy’s solution? Attend Hebrew U in Israel.
  • The power of travel in her life.
  • Mandy explains the process of how she gained the support & favor of her family before she left.
  • Her husband, Brent, in Mandy’s words is “The shore to my raging sea.”
  • When you feel that call and you feel that this is something you should do, it takes courage to step out.
  • The pivotal moment in prayer to decide to stay or go back home.
  • Throughout her travel, this quote kept her aligned, “Don’t be afraid of your fears.  They’re not there to scare you. They’re there to let you know that something is worth it.” – C. Joybell C.
  • “Scared is what you’re feeling.  Brave is what you’re doing.”  “It takes courage to grow up and become who you are meant to become.”  – E.E. Cummings

Uncover the three steps to enriching your life.

  • There are three steps to enriching your life
    • You notice it within, a crisis of character. Loss of individuality, your Spirit is empty, and personality suffers.  Something has to change.
    • This moves you to the phase of curiosity.  You are looking.  So many people are in this phase. They begin studying and learning so much more about a creative outlet.
    • After you’ve been learning for a while, people come to you and ask to learn.  They do this for 2 reasons.  First, you have knowledge. You have become an expert, you just didn’t notice. And second, you are lit up.
  • Her experience in Jerusalem has helped her gain perspective and conquer fear. After living in this situation, she knows her life has a purpose.
  • Something bigger guides your life. There’s power in consciously choosing to do what you do.
  • See humanity to support one another.
  • The term helpmeet translated in Hebrew means, “The exact, but the mirror image.”
  • The hymn of the pearl.  The pearl is yours, and yours only. The explosive, exponential force that comes from 2 people who know their purpose working together.
  • Marianne Williamson’s quote, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves,’Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. It takes to courage to endure the sharp pains of self-discovery, rather than choose to take the dull pain of unconsciousness that would last the rest of our lives.”
  • Click on the link to learn more from Mandy online. Giovanni Giocando, Christmas Eve, 1513: “Life is so generous a giver, but we judging its gifts by their covering, cast them away as ugly or heavy or hard. Remove the covering and you will find beneath it a living splendor woven of love by wisdom with power. Welcome it. Grasp it. And you will touch the angel’s hand that brings it to you. Everything we call a trial, a sorrow, or a duty, believe me that angel’s hand is there. The gift is there. And the wonder of an overshadowing presence are joys too.  Be not content with them as joys. As joys, they to conceal diviner gifts. Life is so full of meaning and purpose. So full of beauty beneath its covering that earth but cloaks your heaven. Courage then to claim it. That is all. But courage you have and the knowledge that we are pilgrims together, wending  through unknown country, home.” Just stay open to the open to new opportunity.
  • From Hamlet, “There are more things in heaven and earth than are dreamt of in mere philosophy, Horatio.”

Find more about Mandy Green.

Thanks for listening!

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3 Reasons why Courage is Key to Your Success

3 Reasons Why Courage is the Key to Your Success
3 Reasons Why Courage is the Key to Your Success

You’ve got fantastic ideas!  You are really create something.  You want to share it with the world.

This is wonderful news!

However, I’ve got to tell you, my friend, that without some courage you are going to struggle.  Business is hard enough- you can expect some struggles along the way, without courage you can expect  a lot more.

Whether you’re a Disney fan or not, there’s about 14 seconds you need to see.  I’ve got it right here for you.

Yes, it’s tough to make decisions.

If there was one thing that building a business has taught me, it’s that  having courage is the key. Being kind makes you stand out.

You are a woman with dreams.  Believing in yourself is an excellent start.  Getting yourself worked up inside guides your emotions.  Now it’s time to step forward.  And that, my dear, takes tremendous courage.

Courage is your key to success

Ready to breakthrough?  To make anything new happen, you need to follow four steps.  First, make a commitment. Then have courage and move forward. Third, as you move forward you develop skills so you are capable. Finally, that brings confidence.

Dan Sullivan explains it so clearly in this video

1.  You make a commitment.

Courage is the key to your success
Courage is the key to your success

2.  That builds about courage.

3. Which leads to capability.

4.  And that builds your confidence.

Nothing happens without courage to step forward and try.  Bobby Flay, Ina, or any famous chef did not make a world-renowned meal  on the first try.  He or she started with courage.  Trying and making, probably some pretty gross food.  The courage to try is what kept them moving forward.

There’s not one famous ball player who didn’t start with courage to try. Not one photographer, politician, or famous singer became who they are without courage.

It all starts with courage. Think of your favorite star, performer, writer, painter, business mind. Everything you want to achieve starts with courage.

Your life, your focus, your step forward starts with courage.

Anything you want to achieve starts with courage.

Here are three reasons why you need to use that courage today.

Your tribe needs  your voice.  Your real voice.

You are a leader.  We’ve talked about that. If it’s  family, work group, students, or people in your daily routine, that’s leading.

Time to own it.

Enjoy the fact that you have others looking to you for insight. Then use your courage to give them inspiration, guidance, and to do better.

Your tribe, like Seth Godin teaches in his powerful book, needs you.  The real you.

Not some over-polished, matchy-matchy outfits on our way to the latest fitness craze. But you.

It’s okay to say you’re nervous.  It’s okay to be vulnerable.  Keep leading.  Keep stepping out in courage and share.

Taking small risks is the only way to move to even bigger ones.

Business owners don’t just start out building a massive business conglomerate.  Unless they’re in a movie. Or a trust fund brat.  For the rest of us though, that’s not even real life.

What is real life is starting that business you’ve dreamed about for years.  Think of it now.  Does your dream have perfectly designed window frames with the right paint color highlighting the perfect tone on the couch?  Or perhaps your dream is being the doula to help women through that painful, miserable, glorious, miraculous experience of childbirth.

Whatever it is… starting your own business takes courage.

Be it a lemonade stand, your Etsy shop, or teaching a class at the community center, step into it.  Write it down. See the plan, design, mission, you want to bring to the world in your own handwriting.

The only way you’ll step forward to bigger things is to start.

And you can’t start without courage.

If you are not moving forward, you are falling back.

We, as humans, are constantly changing.  We are growing or declining.  It’s a simple fact.

If we choose not to grow and push ourselves to become more, we have chosen to decline.

Scary thought.

If you are not progressing, you are falling back from where you are right now.

The secret then is to find a new challenge, a new adventure, a new piece of art to create and move forward.

And that takes courage.

No more focusing on fear.

As you continue through the process of creating your new business, creative endeavor, or project, eliminate the word fear.  No more focusing on fear.

Rather, consider courage.  Tell yourself you have courage.  Really, do it.  Trust this process.

When things get tough think to yourself, “I have courage.  I can do this.”

Before you do your first presentation or webinar, say, “There’s plenty of courage for this! Let’s go.”

If you are feeling self-conscious before a networking event, as you walk in remind yourself, “This isn’t about me.  It’s about learning from others.  I’m courageous enough to smile and be open.”

Trust yourself and you are on your way.

 

You Don’t Become an Excellent BizWoman, you Decide to Be One.

You Don't Become an Excellent Biz Woman, You Decide to Be One.
You Don’t Become an Excellent Biz Woman, You Decide to Be One.

Podcast Episode 69

 New year, new direction.  Podcast episode 69 show notes:

 I want to teach you every hack & nuance to get your business going as quickly as possible.

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Today’s Leadership Lingo Term: Learn

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Find one way to add more learning into your life.

Today’s focus:

You are a business woman.  You just need to have the breakthrough to arrive there.

1.  You make a commitment.

2.  That builds about courage.

3. Which leads to capability.

4.  And that builds your confidence.

Dan Sullivan explains it so clearly in this video.

Read the 5 C’s for Building a Successful Business here.

5 Reasons Why You Need to Create

Talents and abilities

You have that dream.  The one.  The big daddy. I know you do.  It’s inside you.  Something you have wanted to do for a long time.  I can feel it.

Talents and abilities
Marianne Williamson quote

Maybe that dream is learning to become a photographer, a really good one.  Perhaps you are thinking of becoming a world renowned chef, or even, family renowned. It could be you want to fly a helicopter someday. Not fly in, but pilot the helicopter. It might be a house.  Your very own,  yup.  You own it.

Wait, it’s having your own business, isn’t?  Your fashionista style is well-know by your friends and you are ready to make it a full fledged, respectable business entity. Or maybe it’s getting that scrapbook/quilt/ party decor/garden/quilt/painting/calligraphy/stamp collecting/pottery making/cake decorating project going.

Know how I know this?  Because a few of these dreams are mine, too.   This dream of yours is huge!  And you know what?  It is so good to have a dream.  But we are busy women.  Our lives are full of working, raising children, running organizations, and doing all the stuff of life, how can we fit in the dream?  More importantly, why should we?

I submit to you 5 reasons to take that dream seriously.  And do something about it.  Today.

1. Find your courage

Sometimes, the toughest part of starting on any dream project is to tell someone.  The people around you think they know you.  They have seen you in all facets of life, and they are comfortable with that.  Even the closest of loved ones around you, may really not understand what you your vision is here.  That’s okay.  Just ask them to support you in this.  And you are realistic in this big dream stuff.  As a budding photographer, you don’t need to start out with the Canon 7D Mark ii yet, you will keep working on that camera you got a couple Christmases ago.  But watch how you are going to make that focal point crisp!

2. Get those creative juices flowing.

Just the mere creative process opens faculties in our minds to that aren’t readily tapped. Working to learn new skills, see something differently, or see the pieces as they work together to fit the puzzle help your brain develop.  And as you are able to do this, it will only help you in other areas of your life.  Seeing big picture and small details together will make the whole project come to fruition. After crocheting for a while you look at the fence line differently, you can see pattern and technique and wonder how you could replicate that in your stitches.  Surely, this skill will benefit you in other areas.

3. Establish priorities. Time management 101.

By having that side project you are working on, you find that you can squeeze more out of your day.  Sure, you are booked, but if you moved this appointment up a half hour, you could have an extra 45 minutes to work on that quilt.  The creative project will allow you the freedom to be more disciplined.  Wait, did she just say freedom to be more disciplined?  You got it.  Time management is a skill that takes practice.  Lots of practice.  By establishing your daily goals, you are able to turn off all distractions and focus on your work projects, one after another. You are more productive and later, can whole-heartedly focus on that lovely, creative project you’re working on. And 45 minutes on a quilt could get another row of stitching done. Now that’s progress.

4. Add new people to your life.

This side, creative project, no matter how small, not only helps your mind, it helps your social life.  You will be led to people who are interested in the same things, who have insight on your project or who may be willing to mentor you through the process.  The old adage, “When the student is ready the master will appear” rings true.  You may not meet them in real life, that might be just a little unrealistic if you’re cake decorating at 10PM.  Pinterest may lead you to the right blog, and you start asking questions to the author, and soon, you have a mentor in your new skill.

Maybe the first time you walk in the craft store on this mission is intimidating.  You don’t know what kind of cake decorating tip to use, but by browsing through a few books you have a hunch.  Ask questions.  Lots of questions.  Every great was once a beginner.

5. See yourself differently.

Michelangelo, the great artist, was quoted as saying, “I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free.” As you work on the creative project, whatever that is, you begin to listen more to your thought process.  You learn to trust your instincts.  You begin to see the final project and  steps needed to get there.  You have a new sense of confidence because you did it.  And you can do it again.

Finally, this is where it gets really good.  Not only are you using your talents to create, you can use those skills and abilities to help those around you.  You could cook a meal for a family with a newborn just trying to get a good night’s sleep, you could paint a piece for a family member this Christmas, you could use your design skills to re-do your home on a limited budget.  Sure, it seems like you are doing this creative project for you- when in reality, you are doing this for all of those around you.  Isn’t that amazing?

See, I’m just learning this.  Again.  This blog has brought me a creative outlet.  It has taught me more about goal setting, time management, structure and given me an intense zeal to keep moving forward.  I want you to have that.

Now, tell me. What is that dream?  What are you going to do about it TODAY?