I know it’s April. I know we finished the March challenge.
But I’m still not done with the de-cluttering process. This has been hard.
In fact, it has become a physical representation on what is going on inside.
And. This process is freakin’. awesome.
Through this process I’ve received some incredible advice, like Toni’s, “Don’t beat yourself up. When you bought something you had a purpose intended for it. Do something totally different, without the meaning attached to it.”
Or Kristen’s, “Keep at it. You are doing great!”
Or Monica’s, “We can organize that in just a couple of hours. We’ll come over one afternoon and help you with that.”
The lessons learned here are far more than just cleaning. I couldn’t blog or share on the podcast what was going on with me. I didn’t have the words. All I know is, going through this life changing magic of Tidying Up, my entire life, perspective and focus has changed.
And by changed, I mean improved. Edified. Enriched. Because I’ve been able to clear the cobwebs of what I do and do not want in my life, and my home, and my world.
Here are a few things they just don’t tell you about the process of de-cluttering.
[clickToTweet tweet=”De-cluttering your life is giving yourself freedom. @itsamyrobles” quote=”De-cluttering your life is giving yourself freedom. “]
This is hard, at first, but you find yourself. And then it’s crazy easy.
That’s not a cliche. This is work.
Some deep work on yourself even though you aren’t focused on you. You look at your stuff. Ugh. S-t-u-f-f. It’s just stuff. You find out exactly where you are in the process of aligning your life.
Then you donate, give away, toss or purge that stuff out of your life and your home. You start to find out what your real priorities are in your life. And, if you’re smart about it, you pull your family into the process and then the real magic starts to happen.
Case in point: this is our hair care station. I already had the box container. The small white containers holding the items are old “spreadable butter” containers. And no, I have not taken off the labels,replaced them with beautiful contact paper so they make me happy. They work like this and this works for me.
My little girl is right in the golden time of piggy tails, braids, curls, and bows. I love doing her hair and talking with her as we are getting ready for the day… you know, the mindless, seemingly pointless conversations about the adventures of the day that turn out to be the really important stuff of life.
What I love about this image? It was taken a month after I originally organized the hair care station. I was going to put it away and noticed that even though we had pulled it out of its place multiple times a day to freshen up, the station was organized, things were so easy to find and I didn’t have too many products, bottles, and stuff to dig through as we are getting hair done. She has grabbed brushes and combs and know where to put them when we’re done.
A place for everything and everything in its place. Or something like that.
It’s so much easier. That’s when it hit me.
You aren’t just budgeting money, you are budgeting your stuff. And your life’s priorities.
This wasn’t just about my stuff. This wasn’t about the many moves we’ve had in the years we’ve been married. This was much, much more.
I am setting the boundaries for our life and our future.
I am getting over the buying of too many things to make our home safer. I’ve finally realized that our home is safe. And, for some reason, I used to bought a lot of medicines, band-aids, and over the counter medicines to fix every illness, and make the sicknesses pass away quickly.
Once I went through the process and completely de-cluttered our medicine cabinet/hall closet…I could see it. I was living in fear. I was so afraid my little girl would get sick and I wouldn’t know what to do. Isn’t that part of parenting? There are times when you just have to work to figure it out. But I was buying stuff, filling my closets fuller, collecting more things just to eliminate fear. It will never work that way.
[clickToTweet tweet=”‘Buying too much stuff is just feeding your fear.’ @itsamyrobles” quote=”Buying too much stuff is just feeding your fear.”]
Here’s the medicine cabinet/closet now. I eliminated so many products that were expired, old, or just plain…nasty. Gone. All gone.
And it’s not just a diet, think about the first time you made a budget. It was crazy hard for me just to face the facts of our financial situation, and yet, in a short time, we’ve been able to completely turn it around. We are choosing to live in a smaller space. Not because we can’t afford the bigger one, but like Dave Ramsey says, We are “Gonna live like no one else, so we can live like no one else.”
It feels like the best diet of your life.
You are literally getting lighter with all the things you no longer have to keep with you. You are saying to the world, “I am driving my MoneyBus. This is my stuff. This is my life. I don’t need you to tell me what I need.” It’s that refreshing.
Others are experiencing this change, too. There are a few Facebook Groups that have helped me through this progress, encouraged me to keep going, and have worked as an outlet to talk through the challenges while you are in it.
Every trip to make a donation feels like I’m becoming a new person. I can see how in the past I was looking for more compartments to put all our stuff. Now I see that with less stuff I won’t need all the compartments. Think “cart before the horse,” not the other way around.
Looking at the bathroom organization of this drawer, I can tell you that nearly every item was on top of the counter most of the time. Why? Because I had way too much crap in the drawers. You know, old make up I “may absolutely want” one day; curling irons that have seen better days; and all the other stuff.
But no one ever tells you that part. The world tells us to buy more, and then a little more. And, well, why not a bit more.
Know what I say to that? No more.
[clickToTweet tweet=”‘Less really is more. Especially when dealing with household clutter.’ @itsamyrobles” quote=”Less really is more. Especially when dealing with household clutter.”]
It’s like freedom.
You are literally creating the place you want to live to enjoy the life you want to live. Taking control of all the “things” in your life.
By working through the debt, and being able to have hope again in our finances, I’ve been amazed how this has transferred into our possessions, our life, our personal needs.
Truth is, we don’t need a lot to be happy. [clickToTweet tweet=”‘You don’t need a lot to be happy.’ @itsamyrobles #konmarimethod” quote=”‘You don’t need a lot to be happy.’ “]
And sure, as a family, we knew that, we had just forgotten that along the way. Now we are working together, focusing on our goals in every capacity and seeing the real power in teamwork.
The best part?
This is only the beginning.
Tell me now, how has getting your finances in order helped you in other capacities of life?