“What did you write about today?” my husband asked me after work.
“Seven reasons you need a GNO.” Wait, what? He stopped, turned to me and asked, “The lady doctor? Really?” I busted up with laughter. Once I could finally breathe, I said, “No sweetie, a Girls Night Out.”
“Oh.” Apparently, we have some work to do in our home. Yes, you need a GNO. And apparently, I need a GNO!
Girls Night Out. Sure, it sounds like a terrific idea at first. Then the reality of the scheduling, finding a good sitter (that is available that night), planning the family around it, finding a few extra bucks in the budget, and make sure that all the girls can even be there hits. And sometimes, you think, that it is just too much work.
Know what? It is work. But we need it. Let me give you 7 Reasons Why you need a Girls Night Out.
1. You are spending time with people who teach you. Days on end I find myself answering to “Mom, Mama, Mom…” and I love it. I never knew that I could give so much and care deeply as I do for my little girl. I’m just starting to realize that the women I want to spend time with aren’t home watching “Really-Bad-Housewives-that-make-Great-TV.” They are out. They are busy. They work, they Mom (it is a verb, I’m almost sure), they serve their church, lead the PTA, they just never stop. They are caring for their families. Serving in the community. Making things happen. Giving countless hours of service in the classrooms, the soup kitchens, the team mom, the world. I want to learn from them. I want to share for a few minutes what I am learning. They help me gain insight and perspective. They help me grow.
2. You are getting out of the house. Mark Twain said, ““Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines, sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” I know he wasn’t talking about GNO here, but the point is the same. It is so much easier to stay in your routine, the safe harbor of your little home, than schedule, arrange, make time and have a GNO. As our family moves from place to place, I miss the moments that I didn’t make with women who give me insight and perspective, they were helping me grow. I’m not going to talk myself out of taking time for me anymore. Couldn’t you use a GNO? Of course you could. Match it with a mani-pedi and you might hit a weekly nirvana.
3. You should get dressed up to go out. Just because. When did I become a yoga-pant Mom? I don’t even yoga. Most of my sassy clothes are circa ’95. Yikes. I don’t want a wardrobe makeover, (though I will happily clear my calenda What Not to Wear” calls.), Every woman needs a few things to wear and feel good. And, sometimes, as working women/Moms/busy people contributing to society we don’t spend enough time talking accessories, color schemes, and style. I know there are Moms that are good at this, really good. You are probably great at this. A bona fide fashionista. I get it. I could just use some work.
4. You get girl-talk. What is girl-talk? How do you define it? When we were first married, my hubs could not BELIEVE that I was talking to a complete stranger in the check out line. The second we were safe in the car, he’d ask “Why was that lady telling you about her son’s testicular cancer?” I don’t know. It made perfect sense at the time. We were just saying hello, and the next thing I know she needed to let go of something on her mind. Something was bothering her and as women, we vent. We don’t want anyone to fix it, but perhaps, by showing support and kindness, we help each other find peace. That’s it: Girl talk is thinking it out loud. Girl talk having a sounding board to chime on to, with encouragement and sprinkles of sunshine thrown in. Isn’t everything better with sprinkles?
5. You give advice. Naturally, as you are amidst the girl talk you are going to give advice. It is good to do so. This is an act of kindness, provided you don’t take over someone’s life. Some of the best advice in life has come from lunch with the girls, catching up, hearing their stories and learning how much alike we really are. Share your thought, insight and let your girlfriend figure it out. Cheer her on, but let her do the work!
6. You get to LAUGH. When was the last time you were just SILLY? We need that! You’re with friends and the stories keep going, then you see that one of your girls has tears streaming down her face and another has to run to the restroom because her friend, “Tiny Bladder” (but we call her “Tiny Dancer,” because it sounds a little less intrusive), can’t handle the pressure. Getting together and hearing your friends’s stories can be just down right hilarious! That feeling after you have had a few belly laughs, a guffaw and a hairball is amazing! Imagine: if they put that in a can and sell it- no one would ever need another one of those 6-and-a-quarter-hour-zen-drinks. Hugh Sidey said, “A sense of humor…is needed armor. Joy in one’s heart and some laughter on one’s lips is a sign that the person down deep has a pretty good grasp on life.” What absolute refreshment!
7. You come back home ready to be BETTER. A rockin’ Girls Night Out helps us look at our own lives more clearly. We also realize that you have a great support system just outside of our own home, which just gives us an extra ounce of strength. After all the heart connections, laughter, kindness and even a good cry, we return to our life enriched. Isn’t that what this is all about, anyway?
Now, plan a GNO! Tell me about it. Really. Comment below and tell me what you’ve got planned. I want to know.